You’ve been with your guy for a while, and know pretty much everything there is to know about each other. Marriage is on the cards, and you get the feeling that a proposal is just around the corner. Choosing to commit to one person for the rest of your life is a big deal – but how do you know if he’s the right guy for you to plan a future with? Here’s our ultimate pre-marriage checklist…
You share the same life goals
It doesn’t matter how much you love each other if you want different things for the future. If you’re keen to climb the career ladder, while he’s content to coast along just paying the bills – it might be difficult to have a long and happy marriage.
You’ve talked about kids
If you’ve both decided that kids are in your future, or that you’re happy to settle down just the two of you – he’s the guy you’re meant to marry. The important thing is that you both agree on whether or not you want to hear the pitter patter of tiny feet – and that you’re not just going along with what the other person wants.
You work as a team
The best way to find out if you can work together to support each other is by living together first. It doesn’t matter how shiny and gorgeous your engagement ring is if you can’t agree on whose turn it is to put the rubbish out! If you find yourself doing all the housework while he takes a back seat, he’s not going to be a good means of support when life gets tough. If you’re in any doubt, delay getting married until you are sure that what you have is a true partnership that benefits both of you.
You have the same attitude to money
If you love to splurge and splash out on extravagant treats while he’s a frugal saver, there could be arguments and resentment lurking in your future selves. Do you trust each other enough to have a joint bank account and cope with any financial crisis that comes along? If you do, you’ll be halfway to a successful marriage.
You agree on the spiritual side of things
You don’t have to have the same religious or spiritual beliefs to have a happy marriage, but you should share many of the same core values. And, most importantly, you and he should respect each other’s beliefs even if you don’t agree with them.
Deciding to get married is joyful, exciting and a little bit nerve-wracking. There is no guarantee that everything will work out as you hope, but taking the time to think about whether you and your man are really right for each other is well worth the effort. After all, your wedding is just one day – and marriage is a lifelong commitment. If you do decide to take the plunge, start the planning with some great hen party ideas – and have fun!