We all do things differently. Whether it’s how you hold your knife and fork, or how you organize your bake a cake, there are many different methods of doing the daily things we do. And this even goes for our method of parenting. There are lots of different parenting methods - I’m sure you’ve seen the many books out there about the different ones - and each comes with its very own set of advantages and disadvantages. Do you know which method you prepare? If so, then you are probably already aware of the trials and tribulations that come with it. Not too sure which parenting camp you should associate with? Here are some of the main ones - see which one sounds like you!
The Authoritarian Parent
Authoritarian parents are stereotypical parents, in that they are quite strict with their kids. They set numerous rules that they expect their children to follow and, if any of these rules are broken, there will be some serious consequences! This type of parent use the threat of punishment to back up their rule system and ensure that their child always behaves. Authoritarian parents are also often very organized in the running of their household and adhere to strict budgets, which can be a great role model for kids. The downside of authoritarian parents? Well, sometimes, they can often be a bit too strict and demanding on their kids. If you think you are one of these parents, remember that everyone deserves a break from time to time, so don’t push your kids too far!
Chaotic parents aren’t the most organized of people, and there always seems to be some laundry or cleaning to do in their households! And all this mess and clutter in their home often translate over to their way of running their household. They may not be too great with finance and might need to visit financial service companies to help them make it to the end of the month, and they might also give their kids a bit too much freedom at times. But all this chaos at home can have its advantages as well! For instance, kids from these kinds of homes are often free-spirited, and often remark that they have a happy home life. And if your kids are happy, you know you must be doing something right!
The Authoritative Parent
They may sound the same, but there is actually one big difference between an authoritarian parent and an authoritative one! Just like the authoritarian parents, who I mentioned in my very first point, the authoritative parents make lots of rules for their children. However, they believe that there are some cases in which the rules don’t have to be upheld. So, an authoritative parent is not quite as strict as an authoritarian one. They listen a lot more to the child’s feelings and emotions and are willing to judge each situation independently. Rather than focus on punishments and bad consequences, though, these types of parents often try and motivate their children to behave well by offering them rewards for good behavior and politeness. Reward systems are usually also put in place to motivate kids to do their homework and ensure they try hard at school. However, as these parents are often seen as quite lenient, their kids may try and run rings around them. So, sometimes, authoritative parents often find that they need to be a lot stricter than what they would like in certain scenarios.
The Uninvolved Parent
Sometimes, parents aren’t able to provide their children the very basics in life and aren’t always around to discipline and set a good example. There are different reasons why this is, but some of the most common are that they suffer from mental health issues, and can barely take care of themselves let alone their children. If you believe that your parenting skills are suffering as a result of certain illnesses and health conditions, it is important to try and get help and support as soon as possible. Even if you are fine around your children but find that running the finances and general running of a household to be too demanding, you should still speak to someone before things escalate. Perhaps a relative or close friend would be able to help you out? If not, it could be worth speaking to your children’s teacher about the problems at home - they may be able to refer you to a specialist or social services.
So, which parenting style sounds most like yours?